We all do it
Our society nowadays is very judgemental, to say the least, depending on what you are wearing will determine how people respond to you. I can feel you already shaking your head saying, “No, I feel like we are more open-minded than that, we are evolving.” Okay, well here is my argument for that. If you see someone in a suit with shined dress shoes you are going to think they are a little more professional then the guy wearing the ripped jeans and a tank top with sandals. If you see a woman in a sundress with high heels you know, she is a little more girly than the girl sporting the basketball shorts, t-shirt, and Jordans. If you see someone in uniform you know, they are part of the government whether army, marines or police. Even the most non-judgemental open person is pre-wired to respond to people depending on how they are dressed. Your clothes say a lot about you, so why not make sure they say the right thing. Why not make sure they give people the impression you are working so hard to achieve. Even if your a laid-back hippie, dress the part! Have fun with your image, you are an amazing unique individual, and you should treat yourself as such. I know you hear the quote all the time, “You know how many things had to happen just for you to be born? For you to even be standing here!?” I think that is a very real and accurate way to put your and mine existence into perspective. You want your nails to be done a certain way; you buy a certain phone case, a certain kind of car, you go to school to get a certain job. Own that person! Have fun with who you are. Try a new hairstyle, a new hair color, a new hobby. Because the cool thing is everything you do whether you realize it or not is a representation of who you are. Your own little touches and marks are left in every place you’ve been, and everywhere you will go.
Which leads us to the question, “Who are you?” That is a very loaded question, and I’m very aware of that. Well, “Who are you?” you might ask, and you have every right too. I am a laid back surfer girl that listens to rock, rap, and country that has a professional job and an amazing daughter. So how do you dress for that? LOL, that is the question, some days its tank top and flip flops (you can take the girl out of the bay area, but cant take the bay area out of the girl). Some days it’s a suit or dresses and high heels when the work hat goes on, and sometimes its time for that little black dress if I’m going out. Each of us has many sides, many hats we have to wear thru out each day, and the cool part is there is clothing for each hat you have.
In every makeover show, the main thing you hear over and over is the very simple reminder that we all know, “Take time for you”. It’s such a simple statement, four little words but when listened to and followed they are life-changing. How many times have you run out of the house in sweats and slippers, then run into someone from work and wish you were in something else?. Take the extra five minutes to put on some actual gym clothes and tennis shoes, your future self will thank you. Some people get anxiety from shopping for clothes to those people I say, “have no fear!” ! Grab your friend or spouse or sister or brother and make a fun day out of it. Having someone with you can make the process less daunting, grab some coffee or tea, head to the mall, and let your guard down! Bring your phone and play your favorite playlist in the dressing room. Try on something you would never try any other day just to see if you hate it. Chances are you might like it….a lot! Then grab some lunch. Stop at the makeup counter try the new shade for the season. Before you know it, you just might be having …..yep!…FUN!
Know you deserve it, we all know how good it feels to put on a new outfit for an event. It’s like a fresh start, a new event with a new outfit feels so empowering. An outfit is so diverse; it can bring back memories, make you feel sexy, make you feel powerful, make you feel cozy. We don’t give clothes enough credit. Some people, very powerful people, choose to wear the same outfit every day not because they don’t have the funds available don’t they don’t want the hassle of having to pick out an outfit every day. I have to say I understand this as well, that t-shirt and jeans or tailored suit will become their identity because when people see them its who they are. It’s part of their identity now.
One day take the time to go thru your closet, really go thru it. Grab a bottle of wine before if needed lol, but be honest with yourself about what fits what doesn’t and what you are just holding onto for sentimental value. Pack away the sentimental clothing since you don’t wear it, but it has strong ties to your heart, donate you’re too small and too big clothes and make room for the new clothes you are going to get!!!! Have fun, Love yourself and never forget to Treat Yourself !!