Mothers Day for some brings to mind flowers and chocolates and all those warm fuzzy commercials of the picture perfect families with the mom smiling and hugging her kids, and the kids beaming holding up their gifts. Or the commercial where the husband is bringing home the flowers, earrings, or going on a family vacation. Business’s love Mothers Day, it’s a grand marketing strategy and besides who doesn’t love a gift on a day dedicated to you? But in all the hustle we can’t forget the ones that do not have a mother or don’t have a child, invite friends to lunch have a girls dinner the night before and enjoy each others company. If you don’t have a mother, it’s about celebrating the women that stepped up in your life to help fill that role and love you without any obligation. Celebrate each other because that’s what it’s all about, celebrating the women in your life. What is mothers day to you? What is it to me you ask? Mothers day is a big boiling pot of all kinds of emotions thrown into a twenty-four-hour rollercoaster where I always have to focus on being in the moment and not the past. My mom isn’t around anymore not that she passed away it was a choice that she made to leave when I was younger which now as an adult I can come to terms with understanding. A decision that many children have to deal with, unfortunately. Many people are dealing with the painful memories of their mom passing or some just never got the chance to know a mother in their life at all. So for the child part of me, mothers day leaves me feeling a little less than empty.
Flip the coin and Mothers Day as the Mother part of me to my amazing daughter is more then I can put into words, its a blessing uncomparable to anything else I have experienced in life. I feel like I should be getting her a gift for making me a mother, for teaching me more about myself then I knew was possible, for showing me what I am capable of. Being a mother to me is being a protector, a dietician, a nurse, a teacher, a Sunday school teacher, a friend, a disciplinarian, a chef, and a fashion stylist. Being a mom means to cry and laugh together, to go thru life’s bumps and hold onto each other’s hand the whole way thru. To teach them self-confidence but also to be humble. To be tough but kind and compassionate to everyone. To love openly, reject hate and to find their talents so they can share them with the world. To love God and trust in their journey, to pray about everything in life good and bad and worry about nothing. It’s about teaching your children to have gratitude for all they have. To know they always have someone in their corner, and they are never alone. Being a mother is life-changing, it makes you focus on someone other than yourself and watch your heart walk around outside of your body twenty-four seven.
Being a mother is carrying another human inside of you for nine months. It’s about ridiculous food cravings and getting kicked by those tiny feet. Then when you come home from the hospital after having your baby to suddenly find you are scared of everything lol. The cleaning products, are they organic? The carpets, did we thoroughly shampoo them? Even the vacuum, is it putting dust in the air? Its when your dog is no longer your baby and everyone that walks thru the door needs to wash their hands before going near the bassinet. It’s finding out how to sleep in a rocking chair and listen to a baby monitor. For most of us, its sleep deprivation at its finest and loving every minute of the caffeine-infused days and nights. It’s learning what food allergies are and secretly tasting the baby food when your child likes or can’t stand something. It’s about celebrating when they go to the bathroom, and laughing when they eat lemons and make that famous sour face.
Then school starts and it about trusting someone else to be a significant influence on your precious child. It’s about trying to figure out what to do with the free time you now have. It’s about bus drivers and teachers, backpacks and report cards. It’s about your child learning new habits that are not yours, about them having new experiences without you and you being excited for them. It’s about being scared of strangers and yet kind to everyone. It’s about packing your child a healthy balanced lunch then them grabbing a pizza and coke to fit in with their friends, and frankly, it just sounds better.
Life goes by so fast. So if all I can say is, as a mother, enjoy every moment, every milestone, take the ups with the downs, and celebrate every success. Please, please don’t ever compare yourself and know that your child doesn’t care if your make up is perfect or what brand of clothing you are wearing, they care that your there. Being a mother to me is unconditional love and faith in another human being.
What is Mothers Day to you?
“Mothers Day to me means to celebrate the person who you raised you, and loved you, and taught you to be the amazing mother and person we all are today.” -Robyn
“Mothers Day last year was very special having my baby with me, just being able to hold my two-month-old baby and being able to kiss and love her all day was enough for me” -Adriana
“Mothers Day to me means: spending time with the person who brought you into the world, who took care of you when you were sick, and helped mold and guide you into becoming the person you are today. My mother is very special to me, and I am happy to have her and love her with all my heart” -Terri
“My micro-preemie son nursing for the first time on Mothers Day. He came home from the NICU about a week later” -Christie
“Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.” —Maria Shriver